Failures often teach us more…

Way back in 2001, mid July, when I couldn’t clear my CA final in first attempt I was broken… my biggest dream shattered in front of my eyes… I was crying like a kid… my tears made all in my family cry… I had given everything to achieve it and it failed…

It took me some days to come out of that trauma…

My Dad always used to say… clearing examination is not the only thing in life… you will have to face many worse situations in your life… the sooner you encounter failure the better equipped you will be in future…

At that time those were just encouraging words, which I thought he said to console me…

Some people said… it was bad luck… some said… I was overconfident… some said… may be I never deserved it… some said… It always happens in CA

The ones very close to me… just stood by me and gave me the courage to bounce back…
I told to my GF… “Its enough… next time I’m not going to allow luck to play a spoil sport in my celebration… am gonna crack it… come what may…”

May be that’s what my dad always wanted to teach me… the ability to bounce back…
And with all the blessings, I did it… soon I celebrated my Success…

And that failure taught me one thing… “Never Give Up”

Be it our personal life or professional life we do encounter failures… ofcourse no failure is ever permanent nor is any success…
But I’ve seen many people prefering to sink than to swim out…
May be some people just like to gather that false sympathy than really fighting themselves out of that situation…

Why I’m talking all this crap is… today results were out of CA final… and a very close friend of mine who was struggling since years to clear this… finally made it.

I was the lucky one to see his result first and I called him immediately… the happiness in his voice brought tears in my eyes… and I was so happy for him…

May be the brief conversation we had made me blog this and took me back to my time…

He also got very senti and asked me… “Did I deserve so much of wait & pain”… I had no words… He continued… “In all these years of my struggle and during all my bad times you were always there for me… not even once you left me alone”… I was touched…I said… “That’s what friends are for”

When I was going thru a very bad phase in my personal life… he was always there for me… we used to chat for hours on YM… that was the time we developed a fantastic rapport…

I have learned one thing … if you want to judge any relationship then judge it when you are in the worse of the situation… when you have failed… when you are in tears.
The difference between a true close relationship and a casual relationship can’t get clearer than during the time when we are in a bad phase…

Yesterday while I was chatting with Akruti, (one of her friend had also appeared for CA finals)…
She said… if the results are not positive then I’ll have to go and meet him…
I said… if they are positive still you will have to meet to take the party…
She replied… then I’ll take the treat afterwards… its more important to be there during tough times and I don’t mind if I’m not there during the times of happiness… (somewat in these lines)
I said… Wow… I’m also like that :-) (And her friend also cleared… congrats)

So whenever I go thru a rough phase… I don’t only test my resilience but also the tenderness of the ones close to me…

No wonder I’m so proud of my friends… and I feel I’ve got the best… after all I’ve got my own ways to filter them ;-)